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Book Review: The Charisma Myth

  
  
  

Have you ever had a conversation with someone and felt as though they were a million miles away?  Have you had a conversation where you were supposed to be engaged, yet your mind describe the imagewas wandering and it showed?  If so, and you desire to be the kind of person who is 100% present in your relationships and interactions, then you will benefit from The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane.

What is the myth of Charisma?  The myth of charisma, according to the book, is that charisma is a gift to a select few.  The author argues that this was prepetuated through the centuries by greek mythology.  The truth is that charisma, as we currently understand it, is the art of connecting with people through everyday skills such as paying attention, listening, focusing your energy and more.  And that those skills can be acquired by anyone.  

An expert in human behavior, Olivia Fox Cabane has lectured at Harvard, MIT, Stanford and other places on how individuals can learn the practical skills that help people connect with each other on an emotional level.  She certainly comes across as a credible expert and the book is full of practical advice backed up with some good psychological and scientific research.  Most helpful was her identifying the barriers in our lives that prevent us from really projecting our warmth, interest and presence with others.  Barriers like physical discomfort, emotional crisis, anxiety, social discomfort, and more.  

I'm recommending the book, although after reading it I think it might be better on audio book, because it bogs down a bit in the middle.  Having said that, I definitely benefited from the information and encouragement in this book.  

David Curry.

 



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Comments

Although it is good to read self-help books, the greatest self-help book was, is, and always will be the Bible. I personally am going through a journey of healing and restoration, one on one, with Jesus. I have lost trust in most people, but my trust in God is intact. Slowly, God is healing the damaged areas and, in God's timing, I will be able to once again connect with people on a deeper level. I have met people who have read and re-read countless self-help books and yet never got past reciting and regurgitating on what they had read. Never lived it out... 
 
End of story.
Posted @ Monday, May 21, 2012 7:29 PM by marnie
Good thought. As ultimate source of wisdom I agree, but there is a lot of knowledge: science, history, psychology, etc, which can be learned from other reputable sources. Thank you for the feedback. DC
Posted @ Monday, May 21, 2012 7:58 PM by David
Yes, I agree that there is a lot of knowledge we can learn from other than the Bible. The challenge is that we are inundated with knowledge, information in our techno-crazed society. This leads people to isolation and insensitivity to what really matters in life; viewing everything behind a screen or book instead of getting out and experiencing, caring, and engaging in life. I work in school settings and observe students learning behind a desk. When they go home, they turn on their computers and disengage even more. The students have vast amounts of knowledge stored in their brains, but their ability to care and have compassion oftentimes is minimal.
Posted @ Monday, May 21, 2012 9:47 PM by marnie
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